Sunday, November 14, 2010

Spirited Sunday: National Adoption Month

In awareness of National Adoption Month, I've asked my friend Amy to share with you.  Amy and her husband have adopted four children, and I love her heart!  She is so passionate -- and I think you'll be challenged by her post.


Disclaimer: My writing, like my garage storage room isn’t always neat, orderly or labeled. I wish it were, but I move forward both in my storage system and in my writing style in a rabbit-trail style that tends to pepper my thinking and my home-organization (or lack thereof).


Disclaimer #2: Please know -- I don’t love the word “orphan”. I think it’s vague, and it’s also one of those words that represent a reality that I don’t like and so I try and steer clear of “orphan” in my everyday speech. So, writing about “Orphan Sunday” makes me cringe a little. This is not a criticism of those who would educate us on the orphan’s plight -- just that I wish this wasn't such a ginormous reality.


Let me explain -- Webster’s defines orphan in this way:


Definition of ORPHAN


1: a child deprived by death of one or usually both parents
2: a young animal that has lost its mother
3: one deprived of some protection or advantage
4: a first line (as of a paragraph) separated from its related text and appearing at the bottom of a printed page or column
             — orphan adjective
or·phan·hood\-ˌhu̇d\ noun


And? Well? What is my issue?


It seems that the definition of orphan is a bit broader when we talk about “Orphan Sunday” and the missive of the church in James 1:27. Since the earthquake in Haiti (when my twin boys aged 2 and daughter of 5 came home), I have been asked if my children are “true” orphans or not. (I bristle at the question- not sure how to answer that within earshot of my kiddos.) It’s been a year of introspection on international adoption- on WHY I ever adopted in the first place.


Don’t get me wrong, after the earthquake in Haiti- when our kiddos, now ages 3,3 and 6 came home- our household expanded to 8! Our children are ages 3,3,3,6,6 and 8. WHAT? Did I type that correctly? Yes, I did. We are so blessed! And our home is so full at the same time! In any given hour we experience absolute harmony, love and blessings - and various escapades of attempted sibling homicide. It’s heaven, and it’s berserk, all at once. Call me at home, you’ll see! Because of this madness, I definitely think my results are “not typical.”


But, I digress... I think a broader definition of orphan would certainly fall under category #3 in Webster’s- when a “first family” or birth family cannot provide for their offspring in terms of their means, social support, or protection. What I’m getting at.... I think God intended that first families (birth families) would be the forever family of children. When my Hope Darwine prays for her birth parents, I cry and pray right alongside her. I do hope, in earnest, that her birth parents are well and that they know the Lord. My heart thinks that God feels this way millions of times over for His children.


Whatever the reason - whether sin, poverty, corruption, population “planning” or natural disaster - there are an estimated 143 million orphans in the world today. (I did not count them personally, I stole that number from the UN and http://www.cryoftheorphan.org/).


143 million children do not have access to adequate water, nutrition, shelter, education, clothing, or are free from human trafficking sex/slave trade; some - but not all - of these children have lost parent(s), and do not have other family support. This includes approximately 463,000 children in the US foster care system (http://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/factsheets/foster.cfm) and an estimated 13 million children worldwide whom have lost both parents.


And - if that number didn’t move your stomach in a flip-flop, did you know that in 2005 it was estimated of the 3+ billion people on the planet -- almost half - HALF (!!) lived on less than $2.50/US dollars a day? But, hey, ya’ll- I’m not gonna lie, I spent $2.37 at Starbucks the morning I wrote this post -- this is not a ”finger in your nose” kind of exhortation- it’s just a reminder of HOW wealthy we are - when we examine our relative wealth compared with our global counterparts. (http://www.globalissues.org/article/26/poverty-facts-and-stats)


So, what then?


Well, I don’t know.
I know that I love this thought:


Luke 10:29-37


29But wishing to justify himself, he said to Jesus, "And who is my neighbor?"


30Jesus replied and said, "A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, and fell among robbers, and they stripped him and beat him, and went away leaving him half dead.


31"And by chance a priest was going down on that road, and when he saw him, he passed by on the other side.


32"Likewise a Levite also, when he came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side.


33"But a Samaritan, who was on a journey, came upon him; and when he saw him, he felt compassion,


34and came to him and bandaged up his wounds, pouring oil and wine on them; and he put him on his own beast, and brought him to an inn and took care of him.


35"On the next day he took out two denarii gave them to the innkeeper and said, 'Take care of him; and whatever more you spend, when I return I will repay you.'


36"Which of these three do you think proved to be a neighbor to the man who fell into the robbers' hands?"


37And he said, "The one who showed mercy toward him." Then Jesus said to him, "Go and do the same."
Mercy.  It comes down to what your heart and the leading of the Holy Spirit is calling you to do.


Check out this post, from the brilliant & lovely Kristen Howerton on groovy ways you can help out without committing to something you are not called/able to do:  The title is “What Can You Do”- and it is an exhaustive list! http://www.rageagainsttheminivan.com/2010/10/what-you-can-do.html


Mother Teresa spoke it very well when she said:


“I never look at the masses as my responsibility; I look at the individual. I can only love one person at a time - just one, one, one. So you begin. I began - I picked up one person. Maybe if I didn't pick up that one person, I wouldn't have picked up forty-two thousand....The same thing goes for you, the same thing in your family, the same thing in your church, your community. Just begin - one, one, one.”


My thought is that none of us can save them all. Realistically, none of us can, nor do we need to save them all. Rather, I would encourage you to think, pray, talk to your (spouse and/or) family and friends - and see what you can do - anything from supporting a family - (babysitting for a few hours, so a “first family” can be successful in their home without relinquishing their children for adoption) to becoming a “Lunch Buddy” in the Big Brothers/Big Sisters program to considering foster care or adoption.....


every. little. bit. helps.


Remember, it just means we do what we can to help where we can. In the words of Mother Teresa, “just one.

*As an aside- with the amazing internet, there are sooo many ways you can support "first families" in developing countries.

Free trade is a concept where the purchaser pays fair market price for a good and microloan is a concept where goods or small start up funds are given to a producer (usually in a developing country) so that they may create income.

Two of my FAVORITE free trade/microloan programs (just in time for Christmas shopping, girl!) are these:

1. www.haitiancreations.com - you can't buy online right now- but you can sign up for a purse party- they are easy, fun and adorable purses. One purse sold supports a woman and her family for a month. (Guess what I'm giving every lady on my list?) It just feels good!

2. http://www.ssekodesigns.com - gorgeous handmade sandals, created by women in Uganda whose employment directly impacts their enrollment in secondary level education. I think these shoes are beautiful!

Other ideas under construction-- my favorite schoolmaster, Norbert Phillipe is seriously committed to rebuilding his school in Port-au-Prince. I would sell a kidney to help him get this thing underway, if that were actually feasible. He is a man we met in 2009 (before the earthquake) and he is truly unique- he loves Jesus passionately, owns his own school (without loans or government support) and has serious "street-cred" with the youth in Petionville. (Ok, I have to say that writing "youth" makes me sound so very old.) You can see pictures and learn more at: Give Hope To Haiti/ **Note, this last part is a shameless plug for project, website and school we are personally interested in rebuilding. World Wide Village is partnering with Norbert, and all deductions are tax-deductible.

I blog, quite sporadically at Life is Good and a Little Crazy.  It's never the same thing from day to day- a blog of our journey of adoption, the "symphony" of silliness that is in our home, and our own heartbreak for Haiti. That said, I haven't posted for a few weeks- sometimes I just go a little silent for a while.

Thanks for reading my thoughts on "Orphans" and the bigger picture. I'm so glad Stacie let me share!

With all my heart,
Amy Glover

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2 Comments:

Blogger Penelope said...

That's the way to say it! Great post!

November 14, 2010 at 12:58 PM  
Blogger Jackie H. said...

I love how you are participating in National Adoption month on your blog. This is a great post. I really liked the quote by Mother Theresa. I've been highlighting adoption on my blog too and having guest posts by my sister who is an adoptive mother. Here's a link to a post she wrote on writing your child's adoption story in a life book. http://readysetread2me.blogspot.com/2010/11/writing-adoption-life-book-with-your.html
Amy, my nephews are "orphans" from China. Likely their birth parents are still alive but were unable to keep them. I often pray for their birthparents too. I will say a prayer today for your kids birthparents too.

November 20, 2010 at 11:52 AM  

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